FOREIGNER

She was visiting a foreign country for the first time. In her suitcase, she put the company's samples. She was on her way to make a presentation to a lead company in that country. She got off the plane and waited for her suitcase. She waited so long, but her suitcase didn't show up. She started running over here and there, tried to explain her problem to people she doesn’t know in a language she doesn’t speak while she is in a foreign country. And the result: no one could understand her! The language barrier wasn’t the only problem. People looked very different, and they kept a distance when she was trying to approach them…

"How would I behave if someone was in the same situation as mine now while he/she is in my country?" She thought. 

"Is nobody understanding me? Or am I unable to explain my problem?"

Don’t we go through the same problem in our relationships?

"No one understands me." 

"No, no, I can't explain."

While everyone wants to understand and be understood, is it normal for so many people to have problems with understanding and being understood?

Of course, it's not normal at all. It's not normal for people who share the same house, the same pillow, the same roof, and work together to be so distant from each other. This distance shouldn't be normalized...

Talking about social media, the internet, the pace of the era, and how technology separates people today is so easy. But it's not normal that the child’s only goal nowadays is to study far away from his/her parents where they are not waiting at the university entrance exam. Why are we scarifying our relationships for the sake of speed, so that our relationships become victims? How does the social media distance us? Is every relationship like this? Why can’t people understand each other anymore?

 

The answer is that people have become so estranged from each other. We've even become estranged from ourselves.

People can't solve a problem where they feel themselves as a stranger (foreigner).

How can they solve something they don't understand or can't define? That's why most of us, when faced with piled-up problems, only feel anxiety as we look at them. 

So, what's the solution then? Of course, getting to know each other... by starting with ourselves... 

Who am I, what do I really want in life, where do I feel comfortable, where should I improve myself?

How do I get motivated?

Where can I demonstrate a successful performance?

In this era when even thinking about our favourite colour takes time, doesn’t the answers to these questions consider very valuable?

Just like the plane’s rule to put the mask for ourselves first, if we first thoroughly get to know ourselves... Who knows, maybe many problems will be solved.

Then we should turn to those around us... to our loved ones, to those who we are in a relationship with 

But really get to know them... 

A seemingly simple yet very profound question: Who is Who? If we really got rid of that estrangement, if we really turn on the lights and start looking, who is there?

 

Who is there, on the other side of the couch, on the other side of the bed, in the child's room, at the phone... In the mirror...

 

Get to know them... But really get to know them...